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Girl problems!
Author:  tjmoore1993 [ Wed May 13, 2009 1:25 pm ]
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I recently told this girl I liked her she is a smart, beautiful, nice, kind, sweet girl. In fact when I told her I liked her it was beside my locker and this weird vibe told me she was interested as well then she hugged me! From then on I thought she kind of liked me which made my day so I focused on being nice to her and I talked to her a bit more. I haven't stalked her so everything was still fine between us.

Today at school I really felt confident in asking her to go out. During the school periods I was focusing on what I would say because normally I would stall and say uhmm too much. So I thought of say, "Hey, can I talk to you for a second." From there I would just wing it.

When school finished at 12am for the fund raising event she was with her friends and I asked her if I could talk to her for a minute or less. She didn't want to leave her friend alone so I said it would only be for 10 seconds so they agreed and I walked with her and I came out with it and asked her.

Me : Would you like to go out with me and get a slice of pizza tomorrow? I'll pay
Her : I don't know
Me : What do you mean by I don't know?
Her : I don't know if I have plans with my friends tomorrow
Me : I said well if you don't feel comfortable about going out with me you can think of it as just friends hanging out. It would be fun!
Her :
Me : Well I will see you tomorrow. Bye
Her : Bye Tyler Smile


Question:

I am not good with girls because I am a bit too emotional. I am not sure if I was rejected or if she was serious. She acts really sweet around me and it seems really passionate.

What do you guys think she will say? I am really nervous and really excited but I don't want any down thoughts so comments would be appreciated Smile
Author:  jeffgreco13 [ Wed May 13, 2009 1:46 pm ]
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how old are u? and how old is she?

have u met or talked with her outside of school at all?
Author:  BigBear [ Wed May 13, 2009 2:23 pm ]
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I would guess he is in grade 10 thus the 1993 suffix.

People worry to much about this stuff and make things more complicated

The I don't know and no comment answer means she isn't ready to go out with you
Author:  Ultrahex [ Wed May 13, 2009 3:03 pm ]
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So don't be like too pushy about it. Girls are just like guys with some obvious differences. We are all humans but the cultures in which we live are slightly different. I believe, girls in high school (well many of them) are very social group that can be very backstabbing. She may like you but considering age she might just not be ready for something so serious in her life. Sometimes it is just better to be friends anyhow, getting attached can be bad this early on.

Telling from the whole "I'll pay" thing, it is just sorta creepy, especially since you are saying it up front. From the sounds of it she is either not comfortable with it (whether that be because she does not know you well enough or she is just very shy) or she is not ready for anything like that in her life.

Just try to be friends first before going all "date like" which can sorta just be creepy for some people.

Just some ideas.
Author:  tjmoore1993 [ Wed May 13, 2009 4:29 pm ]
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She is not those kinds of girls, I am currently in grade 10 and so is she we both are 15. She acts different around me compared to other guys. I am not sure if it is a sign that there is maybe more or something like that. I am not worried about it but I don't date as much and confidence is all I need now or a path that forwards me to what I shall be expecting.

I stated also when I asked her if it was too awkward she could think of it as just friends hanging.
Author:  jbking [ Wed May 13, 2009 4:46 pm ]
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You likely could have asked her to let you know when she has a lunch coming up without her friends that is when you could do lunch together. This gives her the out of if she doesn't want to go out with you then she just doesn't have to tell you anything really, while if she does want to go, she'll let you know.

Just an observation from many miles away.
Author:  tjmoore1993 [ Wed May 13, 2009 4:58 pm ]
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Tough call though, if you were in my situation she isn't like many girls. She gets very close to me at times and there has been touching for several seconds without discomfort I would assume. She has given me high fives and missed and rubbed my chest area.

I am not sure but if you ask me she has never acted like that around anyone I know so it makes everything seem so mysterious. My friends say she likes me I think maybe she does which makes me feel more confident.

Then again I have this feeling maybe she doesn't? I always thought then well then why would she hug me when I told her I liked her?

Anyways this is why I am asking because this is really challenging my thoughts a lot.
Author:  Insectoid [ Wed May 13, 2009 5:16 pm ]
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Haha, at least you got as far as asking. I only ever was motivated to do that once. She said she had a boyfriend in another school (which is why I assumed she was single). I dunno is is was a 'nice' way of saying 'Not a chance, ever' or sincere, but whatever. It felt great to just do it (don't take that sexually).

If she's interested, well, you let her know, so she should be less nervous of non knowing if it's mutual, which is good. If she doesn't come around and say yes, then she's probably not thinking of you that way (This is based on the way a programmer thinks about things- logically. I could be completely off). In that case, move on, find someone else. Works every time.

Off topic, I just noticed I have a rash on my hand. Not good. Not good at all.
Author:  tjmoore1993 [ Wed May 13, 2009 5:37 pm ]
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insectoid @ Wed May 13, 2009 5:16 pm wrote:

Off topic, I just noticed I have a rash on my hand. Not good. Not good at all.


Should get that checked Razz
Author:  Clayton [ Wed May 13, 2009 6:45 pm ]
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insectoid @ Wed May 13, 2009 5:16 pm wrote:
It felt great to just do it (don't take that sexually).

insectoid @ Wed May 13, 2009 5:15 pm wrote:
Off topic, I just noticed I have a rash on my hand. Not good. Not good at all.


I'm sorry, I couldn't help it! Laughing

Taken completely and utter out of context of course, but it's still fucking hilarious ;]
Author:  ecookman [ Wed May 13, 2009 7:01 pm ]
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insectoid @ Wed May 13, 2009 5:16 pm wrote:
It felt great to just do it (don't take that sexually).



OOH I will and I'll hold ya to it too XD jk



on topic
honestally, i think HS relationships are stupid (no offence) (I am in g10 too, male) I have friends that "go out" with other people, usually best friends or something. usually the relationship lasts about a semester. Afterwards its like they don't know eachother...yep you just lost a great friend...and for what a few kisses, holding hads, spending more time together...and then 0..nothing...Logicaly if you think about it, if you are girlfriend and boyfried and Keep the relationship for about two years...then what HS is over and te colledge or university. unless you go to the same school, you will barley see eachother, and then probaly one of you will find another 'one' then thats when the long term relationships start to start (i think) or until you go to work or something ...but meanwhile in HS you can go out with "the one" about 8 different times meanwhile usually loosing a friend. and then move on to the next "one" (i call this phenonom Relationship Recycling)


I was going to ask one of my friends out (feemale btw..not gay...nothing against gays tho... i know people who are gayish and aare friends with them), some people called it chickening out, but i really don't know if i was or was i being rational. I have known this person for a long time (grade 3 i think) and yea...people often thought we were going out...but no...never have (we go to different schools now and her friends think we sould go out and same with my friends) but when and if its over i don't want to loose a great friend.

Honestally...be friends
Author:  tjmoore1993 [ Wed May 13, 2009 7:27 pm ]
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ecookman @ Wed May 13, 2009 7:01 pm wrote:
insectoid @ Wed May 13, 2009 5:16 pm wrote:
It felt great to just do it (don't take that sexually).



OOH I will and I'll hold ya to it too XD jk



on topic
honestally, i think HS relationships are stupid (no offence) (I am in g10 too, male) I have friends that "go out" with other people, usually best friends or something. usually the relationship lasts about a semester. Afterwards its like they don't know eachother...yep you just lost a great friend...and for what a few kisses, holding hads, spending more time together...and then 0..nothing...Logicaly if you think about it, if you are girlfriend and boyfried and Keep the relationship for about two years...then what HS is over and te colledge or university. unless you go to the same school, you will barley see eachother, and then probaly one of you will find another 'one' then thats when the long term relationships start to start (i think) or until you go to work or something ...but meanwhile in HS you can go out with "the one" about 8 different times meanwhile usually loosing a friend. and then move on to the next "one" (i call this phenonom Relationship Recycling)


I was going to ask one of my friends out (feemale btw..not gay...nothing against gays tho... i know people who are gayish and aare friends with them), some people called it chickening out, but i really don't know if i was or was i being rational. I have known this person for a long time (grade 3 i think) and yea...people often thought we were going out...but no...never have (we go to different schools now and her friends think we sould go out and same with my friends) but when and if its over i don't want to loose a great friend.

Honestally...be friends



I have thought about our friendship for a while but like always my emotions get the best of me and need love. I would never try to jeopardize our friendship if I was dumped. I can manage breakups I just can't manage being lonely.

Many people will focus on their grades but when you have a 98.6 overall average you can't help but feel that you need more. That is my conclusive statement.
Author:  Clayton [ Wed May 13, 2009 7:38 pm ]
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Honestly, you're putting too much thought into this... it's high school for crying out loud. I can almost guarantee you that you'll be breaking up at some point anyways, so don't get too worked up over it.
Author:  corriep [ Wed May 13, 2009 8:12 pm ]
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I think this may help you out. Wink
Author:  saltpro15 [ Wed May 13, 2009 8:13 pm ]
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you ask for girl help on a computer science forum?!

like Clayton said, it's just high school. I'm also in grade 10, p.m. me if you want some real man's advice Wink
Author:  matt271 [ Wed May 13, 2009 8:42 pm ]
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i find this funny.
Author:  ecookman [ Wed May 13, 2009 9:18 pm ]
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me too


just take things slow...don't rush into disasters
Author:  Analysis Mode [ Wed May 13, 2009 11:32 pm ]
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saltpro15 @ Wed May 13, 2009 8:13 pm wrote:
you ask for girl help on a computer science forum?!

like Clayton said, it's just high school. I'm also in grade 10, p.m. me if you want some real man's advice Wink


lol, nicely said.

corriep: That link is more for adult dating. Some of those seem to be pretty mature and advanced techniques for high school students. 99.99% of high school relationships are based entirely upon physical appearance and nothing else.
Author:  jeffgreco13 [ Thu May 14, 2009 12:01 am ]
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human nature = wanting what you cant/isnt readily available to, have.

Screw money and screw looks really, if you've got POWER then you are set... and you better not be thinking super power.

high school is strictly about popularity. if you've got friends and u represent a good time then its only a matter of time before she comes around.

You tried asking her out, if you ever talk again or it becomes intimate like u said for god's sake do not act awkward

Alpha Male always wins, quite frankly act like she doesnt matter all that much.

Bros before hoes is more than just a saying it's a set of instructions. Girls want what they have to work for.
Author:  Zeroth [ Thu May 14, 2009 12:03 am ]
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Just relax! I know you feel very intensely about it right now. The worst thing is to get upset. That puts you into creep zone. Instead, if she says she just wants to be friends, consider this: for the large majority of women, being a friend is more important than dating. For men, its the reverse. Understand that. Be confident, be relaxed, enjoy yourself.

To everyone saying nay to high school relationships I have this to say: the guy just wants to enjoy his time in HS. Just because there is no payoff or result doesn't mean its not worthwhile. For a little while, people connect, have fun, enjoy themselves and develop pleasant memories. It is worthwhile just for that reason.
Author:  Sniper4Life [ Thu May 14, 2009 8:48 am ]
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jeffgreco13 @ Wed May 13, 2009 11:01 pm wrote:
human nature = wanting what you cant/isnt readily available to, have.

Screw money and screw looks really, if you've got POWER then you are set... and you better not be thinking super power.

high school is strictly about popularity. if you've got friends and u represent a good time then its only a matter of time before she comes around.

You tried asking her out, if you ever talk again or it becomes intimate like u said for god's sake do not act awkward

Alpha Male always wins, quite frankly act like she doesnt matter all that much.

Bros before hoes is more than just a saying it's a set of instructions. Girls want what they have to work for.


lol i find this really funny Very Happy
bros before hoes is a set of instructions? Razz
Author:  Insectoid [ Thu May 14, 2009 9:14 pm ]
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It's a program!
Author:  Dusk Eagle [ Thu May 14, 2009 9:55 pm ]
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insectoid @ Thu May 14, 2009 10:14 pm wrote:
It's a program!

lol, it's because you think like this that you've never had a date. Then again, I was thinking the same thoughts, and I don't have a much better track record.
Author:  CodeMonkey2000 [ Thu May 14, 2009 10:33 pm ]
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There is no such thing as true love, only mutual gain. Hahaha
Author:  Zeroth [ Thu May 14, 2009 10:43 pm ]
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Could we not all try to posture about how manly we respectively are? Its stupid. And you know exactly who you are.

And could we also all try not to compete in the "How callous can I be?" contest thats apparently going on? Its stupid as well.
Author:  saltpro15 [ Fri May 15, 2009 7:07 am ]
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So now it's a manly contest eh! Wink :p

girls dated in the last 3 years : 13
amount I still talk to : 0

like ecookman said, it's better to be friends

edit : if you still like her, girls love an acoustic guitar, not being ignored
Author:  Zeroth [ Fri May 15, 2009 11:48 am ]
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saltpro15 @ Fri May 15, 2009 4:07 am wrote:
So now it's a manly contest eh! Wink :p

girls dated in the last 3 years : 13
amount I still talk to : 0

like ecookman said, it's better to be friends

edit : if you still like her, girls love an acoustic guitar, not being ignored

Proof you're a jackass: priceless. Wink
Author:  tjmoore1993 [ Fri May 15, 2009 3:09 pm ]
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Good news, I asked her on a date she said yes!
Author:  Analysis Mode [ Fri May 15, 2009 4:09 pm ]
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well congrats! good job!
Author:  Zeroth [ Fri May 15, 2009 5:08 pm ]
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Good luck!

(Did you say it was a date? I and others I know have asked girls out indirectly, on what the girls thought it was just hanging out, being friends, when us guys thought otherwise.)
Author:  tjmoore1993 [ Fri May 15, 2009 5:28 pm ]
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Zeroth @ Fri May 15, 2009 5:08 pm wrote:
Good luck!

(Did you say it was a date? I and others I know have asked girls out indirectly, on what the girls thought it was just hanging out, being friends, when us guys thought otherwise.)


Well, I asked her out on a date again but I said if you felt uncomfortable think of it as just friends I just want to spend time with you. I also complimented her saying she looked very nice.

Very Happy
Author:  Zeroth [ Fri May 15, 2009 8:08 pm ]
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Hahaha, good. Just wanted to keep you from embarassing yourself like I did... lol.
Author:  andrew. [ Mon May 18, 2009 8:40 pm ]
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corriep @ Wed May 13, 2009 8:12 pm wrote:
I think this may help you out. Wink
LOL.
Author:  T.O [ Mon May 18, 2009 9:16 pm ]
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by her something nice
Author:  T.O [ Mon May 18, 2009 9:21 pm ]
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saltpro15 @ Fri May 15, 2009 7:07 am wrote:
So now it's a manly contest eh! Wink :p

girls dated in the last 3 years : 13
amount I still talk to : 0

like ecookman said, it's better to be friends

edit : if you still like her, girls love an acoustic guitar, not being ignored



5 girls in 4 years
Author:  Analysis Mode [ Mon May 18, 2009 10:00 pm ]
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I've a friend who tells me his method of absconding from high school dating is by making no distinction between male and female in high school.

I do no such thing and I go by this:

Why lose a friend by means of a relationship that won't last, and why let your marks take a blow in the meantime? Ensure that you get a good education, and you'll get plenty of well-educated, good-looking girls in the future, when relationships actually matter and your personalities have matured.

I know only ONE person whose had a relationship last from high school, into university and now into proposal and marriage. That would be my physics teacher.

I mean, high school relationships are for bragging rights among friends, not for longevity and depth of feelings.
Author:  Tallguy [ Tue May 19, 2009 1:26 pm ]
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totally random but true

women:can't live with them, can't life without them

i dunno about you, but sometimes i wish i was still single
Author:  saltpro15 [ Tue May 19, 2009 3:38 pm ]
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Analysis Mode is totally right.

good luck though man, hope it works out
Author:  T.O [ Wed May 20, 2009 11:12 am ]
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I dated Miley Cyrus so beat that saltpro15
Author:  tenniscrazy [ Wed May 20, 2009 12:14 pm ]
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I think the main reason most relationships fail...and not only HS (think about the divorce rate) is because people go into a relationship for purely selfish reasons. They don't actually think about what they can do for the other person. And if both people just want something for themselves the relationship is bound to end up in disaster eventually. If you REALLY love someone then you would want to spend your entire life trying to make that person happy. And think about a relationship where both parties have this state of mind.

I think that would work
Author:  saltpro15 [ Wed May 20, 2009 2:40 pm ]
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Zeroth @ Fri May 15, 2009 wrote:
saltpro15 @ Fri May 15, 2009 4:07 am wrote:
So now it's a manly contest eh! Wink :p

girls dated in the last 3 years : 13
amount I still talk to : 0

like ecookman said, it's better to be friends

edit : if you still like her, girls love an acoustic guitar, not being ignored

Proof you're a jackass: priceless. Wink


oh right, I forgot some people don't know what humor is Rolling Eyes
feel free to drop me more bad karma, because i cry myself to sleep every time you do...

and T.O. , impressive! Wink
Author:  andrew. [ Wed May 20, 2009 4:58 pm ]
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T.O @ Wed May 20, 2009 11:12 am wrote:
I dated Miley Cyrus so beat that saltpro15
So? I once dated Megan Fox. Beat that T.O. Razz
Author:  leafs23 [ Wed May 20, 2009 7:08 pm ]
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yeah right
Author:  T.O [ Wed May 20, 2009 7:09 pm ]
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Miley and i are Still friends
Author:  Analysis Mode [ Wed May 20, 2009 7:37 pm ]
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Analysis Mode @ Mon May 18, 2009 10:00 pm wrote:
I mean, high school relationships are for bragging rights among friends, not for longevity and depth of feelings.


Case in point guys. except replace friends with forum posters.
Author:  T.O [ Wed May 20, 2009 7:39 pm ]
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i agree with Analysis Mode about relationships
Author:  leafs23 [ Wed May 20, 2009 7:41 pm ]
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hey i think my gf and i are meant for each other
Author:  Analysis Mode [ Wed May 20, 2009 7:48 pm ]
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how does one put images as a signature? from a website?
Author:  endless [ Wed May 20, 2009 9:05 pm ]
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Analysis Mode wrote:

how does one put images as a signature? from a website?


what you have: [img][url=*http://www.speedtest.net/result/477979263.png[/url][/img]

take out the [url=* and [/url], but leave the [img] stuff

(i put in the * so you could see it)
Author:  leafs23 [ Mon May 25, 2009 9:07 pm ]
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im currently dating the hottest girl in my school and she is in gr 12 and im in gr 10
Author:  bbi5291 [ Mon May 25, 2009 9:13 pm ]
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Some point to this post other than bragging?
Author:  leafs23 [ Mon May 25, 2009 9:15 pm ]
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still im dating the hottest girl @ my school
Author:  bbi5291 [ Mon May 25, 2009 9:22 pm ]
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Also, I think I'm the friend that Analysis Mode was referring to, although I'm not sure if I really said that or not. In any case, I think the quote was taken out of context.

Neither Analysis Mode nor I have ever been on a date. I personally have never even liked a girl who liked me back. So if he feels qualified to offer advice, so do I. Know what you want. Sometimes when people offer advice they assume that you want the same thing out of a relationship as they do, or that you want the same thing out of a relationship that every teenage guy is supposed to want (*cough*). Ask yourself the following question: what am I trying to get out of this relationship? I'm not going to give any specific advice, because I'm not qualified. But consider these words...
Author:  leafs23 [ Mon May 25, 2009 9:26 pm ]
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leafs23 @ Mon May 25, 2009 9:15 pm wrote:
still im dating the hottest girl @ my school

that is quite a feat tho
Author:  Dusk Eagle [ Mon May 25, 2009 9:31 pm ]
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leafs23 @ Mon May 25, 2009 10:26 pm wrote:
leafs23 @ Mon May 25, 2009 9:15 pm wrote:
still im dating the hottest girl @ my school

that is quite a feat tho

Honestly leafs23, quit the boasting and the astroturfing. Honestly, no one cares much about your personal life at all, much less that you happen to be dating someone you think is hot.
Author:  leafs23 [ Mon May 25, 2009 9:32 pm ]
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fine
Author:  leafs23 [ Mon May 25, 2009 9:34 pm ]
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tjmoore1993 are you two officialy dating now
Author:  Analysis Mode [ Mon May 25, 2009 11:32 pm ]
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leafs23 @ Mon May 25, 2009 9:34 pm wrote:
tjmoore1993 are you two officialy dating now


Congratulations, now you've lowered yourself even a notch lower, by firing the first shot in what I anticipate will become a flame war about girls...how sad
Author:  Clayton [ Tue May 26, 2009 5:30 am ]
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leafs23 @ Mon May 25, 2009 9:26 pm wrote:
leafs23 @ Mon May 25, 2009 9:15 pm wrote:
still im dating the hottest girl @ my school

that is quite a feat tho


You... quoted yourself? And it was spam at the same time? What? Just because this is [Off Topic] does not mean that you can just spam however you like.
Author:  T.O [ Tue May 26, 2009 7:06 am ]
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what ever dont bug my friend Leafs23

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